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We’re in a new year, and with 2023, we’re losing the stigma when it comes to talking about our own pleasure. More and more Americans are taking charge of their own pleasure, and we’re here to help, because who doesn't love getting toe-curling, mind-numbing orgasms whenever we can?! While we love one-on-one time with our partner or partners, we can't resist a little orgasm-filled self-care night with our favorite sex toys.

Bespoke Surgical just came out with a survey featuring the input of over 1,000 Americans talking about their go-to sex toy, and the results are intriguing, to say the least. But what makes this special is that they concluded which state adores which toys the most (We see you, Michigan, you’re quite the kinky superstars there!)

Some states like to keep it simple with a good ol’ dildo, like Alaska and Ohio, while others unleash their inner dominatrixes with the cock cages Missouri and Oregon seem to adore. But no matter the toy, everyone deserves to find the thing that pleases them to no end.

We know navigating the aisles for the right sex toy can be daunting — there are simply so many makes and models on the market. This one vibrates, one is remote-controlled, and the other may be something you’ve never seen before. But that's where we come in. We combed through the types of toys each state loves and matched each one up with a specific toy we think they’ll adore.

Check out the most popular sex toys in every state below — and our picks for the best versions of those to try out ASAP!

Our Pick: Womanizer Starlet 2 Rechargeable Clitoral Suction Stimulator

Y’all like to focus purely on pleasure, so this waterproof and discreet clitoral stimulator is perfect for those wanting a wide variety of sensations. With four tremble-inducing intensity levels, this simple toy will give you immense pleasure without any physical contact, thanks to the air technology.

Our Pick: Lovehoney Triple Tickler Realistic G-Spot Dildo Vibrator 5.5 Inch

You can't go wrong with this versatile toy. However, y’all also love your good ol’ dildos as well, so why not treat yourself to a toy that can do it all? This curved and realistic vibrator is perfect for offering precise G-spot (of P-spot!) stimulation, and it's also amazing for bringing in for some shower fun since it's waterproof.

Our Pick: Lovehoney Bionic Bullet 5 Function Vibrating Cock Ring

Not only is this vibrating cock ring super-soft and made stretchy to fit comfortably around your penis, but it comes with a removable bullet for extra pleasure. So you get the best of both worlds!

Our Pick: Womanizer Duo

It's all about the G-spot with you bunch! You like to get straight to the point, and you will not deny yourself that sweet pleasure. This clitoral stimulator puffs at your clit and buzzes your G-spot, giving you the most mind-bending orgasm (especially since it comes with a bunch of customizable levels for you to pick from!)

Our Pick: Lelo Loki Wave Rechargeable Vibrating Prostate Massager

Y’all are all about exploring new pleasures, and for those that haven't dived into the backdoor yet, you now have a guide. This luxurious vibrating prostate massager is perfect for prostate stimulation because of the customizable rhythms. (Make sure to pair it with a water-based anal lubricant!)

Our Pick: Magic Wand Original Extra Powerful Plug-In Vibrator

These states started using more sex toys in lockdown, so why not experiment with your pleasure with one of the best basics? So for those wanting to dabble in the world of sex toys, you can't go wrong with this classic vibrator that doubles as a muscle massager. Both intensely powerful and toe-curling, this toy is as versatile as it gets because you can use it by yourself or in foreplay with your partner.

Our Pick: Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator

People from Montana: you can't resist a good vibrator! This waterproof vibrator boasts a slightly angled tip and added attachment that lets you have insane sensations for both your G-spot and clit.

Our Pick: Unbound Clutch

Louisiana, it's time to take control of your orgasm with this amazing, ergonomically-designed toy that shoppers adore for hitting their G-spot just right! Clutch is a perfect fit if you’re struggling to find and hit the right spot every time.

Our Pick: Lovehoney Booty Shaker 10 Function Remote Control Vibrating Butt Plug

Time to switch out your beloved butt plug with this remote-controlled, vibrating toy we know you’ll instantly love. With ten patterns and six speeds, you can control it all with the remote (whether you’re by yourself or with a partner!) All you have to do is place the silicone, tapered toy into your butt and use the buttons accordingly. Note that while the toy is waterproof, the remote is not.

Our Pick: njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

Y’all like to keep it simple and sexy, so you can't go wrong with this weighted temperature-responsive dildo. With the double-ended and curved design, you can really get precise stimulation for that mind-bending massage and orgasm y’all deserve.

Our Pick: Adam & Eve Thrusting Anal Vibe

Y’all love vibrators and showing your butt some booty love; so why not combine them into one powerful massager? This thrusting toy is a must for anal exploration, thanks to it's ribbed texture and three speeds.

Our Pick: Fetish Fantasy Inflatable Hot Seat

Y’all love being in the hot seat (get it?!) You love pleasure from the front and the back, so why not get a bit more creative with it? This is basically the adult version of a sit-and-bounce, but way more luxurious since it has a super-soft seat to bounce on, easy-grip handles, and more. Plus, the dildo in the middle is 12 inches, so it's going to be a wild ride.

Our Pick: Silicone Remote Adventure Set

Perfect for solo time or with your partner, we know you love sexy vibrations (and cock rings!) The first part of this couple's kit is a ribbed penis ring that not only sends sparks of pleasure through him but also perfectly hits your partner's clit. Then there's an anal toy that can be used as an intense prostate pleasure (especially since it has 12 functions!)

Our Pick: Mod Love Deluxe Thruster Sex Machine

If you’re tired of your usual dildo, then upgrade it with this elaborate bondage machine. This kinky thrusting machine gives you an insane amount of power of 200+ thrusts a minute with the smooth silicone dildo attached (making this an insanely intense hands-free experience!)

Our Pick: Climaximum Pharos

Who can resist a powerful vibrating butt plug like this one? This model is a very beginner-friendly design, thanks to the tapered tip, slender design, and easy-to-use and ergonomic handle. Don't worry about getting it in and out, because the T-shaped designed helps you move it around easily.

Our Pick: Lovehoney Sensual Glass Iridescent Anal Beads

This latex-free, glass bead set is perfect for introducing it into the bedroom. With the convenient finger loop at the end, you or your partner can easily control every angle, bead, and more with a single finger.

Our Pick: Svakom Alex Neo App Controlled Thrusting Male Masturbator

Now there are app-controlled thrusters, adding another layer of making it a more customizable toy. This luxurious toy is simple to use because you just utilize the sleeve stretches to comfortably line your member, and use the long-distance app to go to town on sucking and thrusting!

Our Pick: Happy Rabbit Rechargeable Vibrating Strap-On Harness Set

Combine all of your sexual loves into one: a powerful kit with a snug strap-on harness and a vibrating rabbit toy. All you have to do is place the toy (or whichever you prefer) in the harness (which comes with three O rings for a snugger feel!) Strap yourself into the strap-on, and utilize the 15 vibration settings to your liking.

Our Pick: Svakom Cici Soft Flexible Curved Finger Vibrator

This super-soft, flexible finger vibrator is perfect for perfectly angling it to your G-spot. With 25 vibration combos and a flexible head, getting the most intense orgasm will be a piece of cake.

Our Pick: Adam & Eve Spank Me Vibrator

For the states that adore sexy whips, it's time to try something a little new: a vibrating whip. You use the vibrator wherever you wish, with a lengthy leather whip at the end for all the BDSM fun!

Our Pick: Ouch! Glow In The Dark Bondage Kit

This kinky, glow-in-the-dark set is perfect for those who love whips, restraints, and everything in between. This money-saving set comes with a blindfold to heighten every touch, sturdy wrist cuffs, a ball gag, a saucy paddle for the states that love a good spanking (and want to try something a bit sturdier than their fave whips), and sexy dice. What more could you want?

Our Pick: DOMINIX Deluxe Large Breathable Ball Gag with Nipple Clamps

This ball gag, nipple clamp set will truly be the pinnacle of any BDSM kit. It's no secret that DC is a pretty sexy place, and we know how much they love nipple clamps. So it's time to use this hypoallergenic and fully adjustable set of clamps, which will only add all the more pleasure.

Our Pick: Fifty Shades of Grey Sweet Anticipation Reversible Collar Nipple Clamps

If you’ve been itching for a sturdy and sexy pair of nipple clamps, this set is right for you! We know how much you love these, and with a satin-feel collar, it's as irresistible as you can imagine.

Our Pick: Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage Stroker

Focus on pleasure in the new year with this intense fleshlight that's lined with stimulators for that realistic, orgasm-inducing feel.

Our Pick: DOMINIX Deluxe Chastity Cock Cage 3.5 Inch

Cock cages are coming back, and if you love orgasm denial as much as we know you do; this metal cage is a must! The two-piece design is very easy-to-use, with the open ring design allowing for more ventilatioand teasing.

Missouri & Oregon